Keisha and Dawn have been girls for what seems like forever. They hang together, party together, shop together and start shit together! Ace boon coons is an understatement. One faithful day Dawn finds a boo. Now their 1 + 1 = 3??!?!?This is a common scenario. At some point in time, somebody is gonna find love or at least some strong like! Sometimes this is a seamless transition and other times its an issue. For whatever reason, whether it be Boo'd up friend neglecting the friendship or Single friend being
"overly concerned" aka
JEALOUS; there may be a bit of drama. However, there are some surefire ways to avoid any strife in your life when Thelma and Louise becomes Bonnie and Clyde plus one....
1. If you're the single friend make sure you are
HAPPY for your girl! If she likes it damn it you love it! One day you'll be in the same position and you'd want her to be happy for you. Even if he isn't who you'd picture her w/, still be there and act excited.
- SIDENOTE: If you can't muster some good feelings, either 1. You're not really her friend; 2. You are more than likely a hater.
2. Understand that things are going to be different. Weekly club hoppin' may become monthly or twice a quarter! She is getting to know her new boo and they need THEIR time! She's not going to be able to spend hours on end on the phone or taking spur of the moment trips to ATL for the weekend. If they're serious she wants to spend time w/ him. You don't pay for meals, open the door for her nor do you dick her down, so........yeah......
HE WINS!
- SIDENOTE: this overdose of quality time will dwindle and she will eventually come out to play more often. Welcome her back into the fold w/ open arms...Don't be bitter!
3. This one is important so pay attention...Constantly having a negative opinion about your girl's boo will eventually wear and tear on your friendship....even if your negative opinion is true. At this moment in her life she is completely smitten w/ him and there isn't much you can say to change her mind. So pointing out his every flaw and shortcoming is going to devalue your opinion and make you seem like a hater. Plain and simple. So anything short of him blacking her eye, calling her a dumb bitch or giving her a disease....
SHUT THE FUCK UP!
- SIDENOTE: And don't give me that shit about her asking your opinion!! She's just venting! He's a dirty son of a bitch tonight but he'll be her Bookie Bear in the morning!
4. If you're the Boo'd up friend don't cling so tightly to your man that he becomes your
EVERYTHING. Trust he'll never
REALLY wanna go shopping, get a mani/pedi or
CARE that Kim from RHOA is a sneaky hoe! Honestly he doesn't have the attention span for that. So don't completely abandon your friends for any man. Trust me, he not only will appreciate but will encourage outside interaction.
A good homegirl is a prized possession. Somebody you can confide in and truly be yourself around is special. So when she finds love, being happy for her should be second nature. Her happiness is your happiness. However, being creatures of habit we don't always welcome change. So snap out of it and get w/it! He may have a cute brother/cousin/homeboy for you to snuggle with. Worse case scenario he ain't shit and you two are
FORCED to bust his windows.....
that's what friends are for.....
